All the questions and answers come directly from Smart Love Solutions in Early Childhood-A Handbook for Parents, Teachers and Caregivers by Drs. Martha Heineman Pieper and William J. Pieper.

Q: Should I insist that my four-year-old continue going to summer camp?

My four-year-old, who had a successful first year in preschool, was supposed to be in a summer camp doing sports, art, etc. He was really looking forward to it, so I was amazed when he came home after the first day and said he didn’t want to go back.

I have been forcing him to go because I think it will be good for him and I’m sure he will like it if he gives it a chance, but he is actually becoming more, rather than less, resistant. I am afraid to give in and let him think he can dictate what he will and won’t do. Please advise.

A: The real issue is not whether you are going to allow your son to dictate to you; it’s when to make a child do something he doesn’t want to do.

The best principle for making this decision is only to insist when the behavior is necessary (for health, safety, family needs, etc.). It’s never a good idea to make children do something just to establish that you are more powerful than they are and can order them around. In fact, teaching children that “might makes right” is a bad idea that boomerangs as children get older and stronger. Applying this principle to your son’s summer vacation, think of it as a time when he has free time and should have relatively free choice. Even though your son was happily looking forward to summer camp, something about the reality of going to it has turned him off. Since he is unhappy about going, try to enroll him in a different program. Or if you are not working, perhaps he would be happiest staying home with you and going on outings to the beach, the park or the zoo. You will accomplish much by showing your son that whenever possible you will honor his preference. He will know that you value his choices and as he grows up, he will copy you and learn to respect the choices of others. For now, the knowledge that you want to honor his wishes will help him to be more accepting at those times when you can’t do as he wants.

Buena Park Neighbors to Hold Spring Clean and Green 
on Sat., April 18, 10:00 a.m. at Dollop Coffee & Tea (4181 N. Clarendon Avenue)

Buena Park Neighbors will hold its Spring Clean and Green on Saturday, April 18 at 10:00 a.m. at Dollop Coffee and Tee at 4181 N. Clarendon Avenue, which is on the northeast corner of Clarendon Avenue and Gordon Terrace.

At this annual event, Buena Park residents volunteer to help clean up their neighborhood. The group will meet at Dollop at 10:00 a.m. and spread out from there. The Buena Park Neighbors Association supplies the trash bags and tools. Residents should bring a pair of gloves. At noon everyone will meet at Michael’s Pizzeria for a community lunch.

This is a great way to meet neighbors and work together to make Buena Park shine.

Buena Park Neighbors Association General Meeting Is TONIGHT, Mon., March 30, 7:00 p.m. at The Shift, 4101 N. Broadway

Alderman Cappleman will attend the General Meeting on Mon., March 30, 7:00 p.m. at The Shift, 4101 N. Broadway where residents gather to learn news about Buena Park, hear about upcoming events, recap recent accomplishments and hear from local officials and leaders. Buena Park Neighbors has obtained a limited number of Cubs tickets, and they will be available to residents who attend the meeting.

Upcoming Buena Park Neighbors events for the next three months are:

Thurs., April 2, 7:00 p.m. – CAPS Meeting, Ruth Shriman House at 4040 N Sheridan Rd.

Sat., April 18, 10:00 a.m. Spring Clean and Green – The Fall Clean and Green is an opportunity to meet your fellow residents and clean up the neighborhood after a summer of outdoor activity. We go through the neighborhood to pick up trash and do light gardening in selected areas. We supply the bags, rakes and shovels.

Thurs., May 7, 7:00 p.m. – CAPS Meeting, Ruth Shriman House at 4040 N Sheridan Rd.

Thurs., June 4, 7:00 p.m. – CAPS Meeting, Ruth Shriman House at 4040 N Sheridan Rd.

Thurs. June 18, 7:00 p.m. – Concert in the Park – The Free Concert in the Park is a perfect night for relaxing with family and friends, enjoying the music, tasting from food trucks (or bringing your own)and fun.  Our face painter will be busy all night to delight the children with interesting and unique designs. The bouncy house will be full of kids with parents and grandparents standing by.

Attendees will also be brought up-to-speed on Buena Park Open Day, Sun., July 19, 12:00 p.m. Noon – This is third year for Buena Park Open Day that features tours of historic architectural and St. Mary of the Lake, a bouncy house, face painting, food and more.

At Buena Park CAPS (Chicago Alternative Policing Strategy) meetings you get to talk with the police officers who work in your neighborhood and work together with the police, other neighbors, local businesses and community organizations to improve public safety and work collaboratively and constructively to make Buena Park a safer place.

Attendees who begin a new membership or renew an existing one will receive a complementary copy of Sweet Home Buena Park: A History of Our Unique Chicago Neighborhood and Its Nearby Lakefront by Gene Tenner.

Buena Bunnies
Sunday March 22, 2-4 pm
St. Mary of the Lake school hall

The Buena Park Neighbors Association announces that its annual Buena Bunnies charitable event will be held this Sunday March 22, from 2-4 pm at the St. Mary of the Lake school hall. The school hall is located on Buena Ave. at Kenmore Ave. – parking is available in the lot on that corner and the entrance is from the parking lot.

Buena Bunnies is an annual event where all are welcome to help make Easter baskets and fill plastic Easter eggs for neighborhood children. Approximately 40 baskets filled with toys and candy are needed this year for children of needy families that receive assistance from the St. Mary of the Lake St. Vincent De Paul Society food pantry, a Greater Chicago Food Depository. In addition, plastic Easter eggs are needed to be filled with candy for the St. Mary of the Lake Easter Egg hunts, which are for all young neighborhood children, held on Easter Sunday at 10:30 am and 2 pm, on the St. Mary of the Lake church lawn, on Buena Ave. at Sheridan Rd. Anyone who is interested in helping make baskets and fill eggs, please bring baskets, small toys, plastic Easter eggs, and of course candy, to fill both the baskets and plastic eggs. Buena Park Neighbors will provide recyclable “grass,” cellophane wrap, ribbon, and other supplies for making the baskets. The annual Ellen Feinberg award will be given for the best Easter basket. If you cannot make the event but would like to donate baskets, candy, plastic eggs, or small toys, there is a donation box in the back of the St. Mary of the Lake church.

The Buena Park Neighbors Association will hold its annual Buena Bunnies event on Sun. March 22, 2:00 p.m. to 3:00 p.m. at St. Mary of the Lake, 4200 North Sheridan Rd.

Buena Park residents and Alderman Cappleman will volunteer to hand-craft baskets for the children of low-income families of Saint Mary of the Lake.  The volunteer-made baskets will be presented to Deacon Paul for distribution on Easter Sunday, April 5. Volunteers should follow the signs to enter through the door on the southern side of the western-most building.

Join your neighbors for football fun on Superbowl Sunday, Feb. 1, 5:00 p.m., the Holiday Club, 4000 N. Sheridan.

Your $25 wristband includes: bottomless Pabst Blue Ribbon, Goose Island Green Line and wings. Wristband sales begin at 5:00 p.m. and are valid until 8:30 p.m.

All proceeds benefit Buena Park Neighbors.


Sweet Home Buena Park: A History of Our Unique Chicago Neighborhood and Its Nearby Lakefront by Gene Tenner tells the story of this charming neighborhood through 36 pages of easy-to-read prose and rich and colorful photography.

You will learn how James B. Waller’s purchase of 53 acres in the late 1850s led to the uniqueness of Buena Park. It is distinct from all other Chicago neighborhoods because of its origins, borders, the timing of its architectural growth, proximity to both the lakefront and downtown Chicago and its diverse range of residents. It is unique because of its people, architecture and lakefront.

For only $20 you will also discover what animal is buried under Cricket Hill.

You can pick up your copy today at The Shift, 4101 N Broadway or attend any Buena Park Neighbors General Meeting, Concert in the Park or Buena Park Open Day.

All proceeds benefit the Buena Park Neighbors Association.


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